


It is this blend of East and West that allows her to reach a global audience, and establishes her as one of a kind in the field of mindfulness psychology.ĭr.

Shefali was exposed to Eastern philosophy at an early age and integrates its teachings with Western psychology. My child's spirit will reflect the manner in which I am invited to respond to my own essence.Shefali Tsabary, Ph.D., received her doctorate in Clinical Psychology from Columbia University, New York. My child's spirit is infinitely wise and will manifest itself in exactly the way it's meant to. I'm here as my child's spiritual partner. I'm not here to determine what course my child's life should take. I'm not here to judge or approve my child's natural state. I ask for a reminder of my own ordinariness and the ability to bask in its beauty. I ask for the grace to sit with my child each day and simply revel in my child's presence.

I ask for the ability not to base my child's being on grades or milestones reached. I ask for the wisdom to appreciate the sparkle of my child ordinariness. I will give my approval freely as my child has earned this right. I release my child from the need to obtain my approval, as well as from the fear of my disapproval. “I ask to be released from the notion that I have any power or jurisdiction over my child's spirit. The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Empowering Our Children “After all, how can we hope to raise our children to be freethinkers and free-spirited if we aren’t these things ourselves? How can we raise independent, autonomous children if we ourselves aren’t independent and autonomous? How can we raise another human being, another spirit, if our own being has been largely dismissed, our spirit systematically squelched? It may be helpful for me to share with you some of the areas in which I am learning to accept myself: I accept I am a human being before I am a parent I accept I have limitations and many shortcomings, and this is okay I accept I don’t always know the right way I accept I am often ashamed to admit my own failings I accept I frequently lose my center worse than my child ever does I accept I can be selfish and unthinking in my dealings with my child I accept I sometimes fumble and stumble as a parent I accept I don’t always know how to respond to my child I accept that at times I say and do the wrong thing with my child I accept that at times I’m too tired to be sane I accept that at times I’m too preoccupied to be present for my child I accept I am trying my best, and that this is good enough I accept my imperfections and my imperfect life I accept my desire for power and control I accept my ego I accept my yearning for consciousness (even though I often sabotage myself when I am about to enter this state).
